以下的状况，相信你一点都不会陌生：
查看电邮时，看到了一封注明：FW: Read this amazing love story 的转载邮件。打开一看, 全文如下：
"He met her on a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the Party, he invited her to have coffee with him. She was surprised, but due to being polite, she promised.
They sat in a nice coffee shop. He was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable. She thought, 'Please, let me go home....'
Suddenly he asked the waiter, 'Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.' Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red. But still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it.
She asked him curiously, 'Why you have this hobby?' He replied, 'When I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there.'
While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home.
Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.
That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date.
She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands. He had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!
Then the story was just like every beautiful love story . The princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life...And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said:
'My dearest,
Please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee.
Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promises not to lie to you for anything..Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth:
I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste.. But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life!
Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, Even though I have to drink the salty coffee again'.
Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her: what's the taste of salty coffee? 'It's sweet,' she replied.
Love is not 2 forget but 2 forgive, not 2 c but 2 understand, not 2 hear but 2 listen, Not 2 let go but 2 HOLD ON !!!!"
很感人吧？抱歉, 这不是我的重点。请继续往下看：
"If u open this, U have to re post it or you will have bad luck for the rest of your life!!!!!!! Tonight at midnight your true love will realize they like you. Something good will happen to you at approve 1:42pm tomorrow, it could be anywhere. So get ready for the biggest shock of your life. If you break this chain, you will be cursed with relationship problems for the most important time of your life. Send this to 15 people in 15 minutes to carry on the chain... And spare you the emotional stress."
转发出去吗？岂非演变成＂恶性循环＂？不转发出去吗？那我的感情会不会＂厄运连连＂？想必这应该是一般人的反应吧！
对我而言，"睬它(咒语) 都傻"！可是遇上感人肺腑的故事时，我既想和朋友分享，又不想＂殃及池鱼＂，如何是好？
备受这种邮件缠绕多时的我，这次灵机一动! 哈哈，把最后一段＂咒语＂给删掉，再转发出去不就可以了吗？天啊！这么简单的方法，亏我迟至今日才想到！
咦？不对！既然是再简单不过的方法，想必许多人也可以想到吧！但为何大家还要继续转发呢？
是因为渴望爱情的人太多？还是害怕厄运的人更多？我想: 是喜欢恶作剧的人最多！
查看电邮时，看到了一封注明：FW: Read this amazing love story 的转载邮件。打开一看, 全文如下：
"He met her on a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the Party, he invited her to have coffee with him. She was surprised, but due to being polite, she promised.
They sat in a nice coffee shop. He was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable. She thought, 'Please, let me go home....'
Suddenly he asked the waiter, 'Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee.' Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red. But still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it.
She asked him curiously, 'Why you have this hobby?' He replied, 'When I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I like playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there.'
While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home.
Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family.
That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date.
She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands. He had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee!
Then the story was just like every beautiful love story . The princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life...And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it.
After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said:
'My dearest,
Please forgive me, forgive my whole life lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee.
Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promises not to lie to you for anything..Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth:
I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste.. But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life!
Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, Even though I have to drink the salty coffee again'.
Her tears made the letter totally wet. Someday, someone asked her: what's the taste of salty coffee? 'It's sweet,' she replied.
Love is not 2 forget but 2 forgive, not 2 c but 2 understand, not 2 hear but 2 listen, Not 2 let go but 2 HOLD ON !!!!"
很感人吧？抱歉, 这不是我的重点。请继续往下看：
"If u open this, U have to re post it or you will have bad luck for the rest of your life!!!!!!! Tonight at midnight your true love will realize they like you. Something good will happen to you at approve 1:42pm tomorrow, it could be anywhere. So get ready for the biggest shock of your life. If you break this chain, you will be cursed with relationship problems for the most important time of your life. Send this to 15 people in 15 minutes to carry on the chain... And spare you the emotional stress."
转发出去吗？岂非演变成＂恶性循环＂？不转发出去吗？那我的感情会不会＂厄运连连＂？想必这应该是一般人的反应吧！
对我而言，"睬它(咒语) 都傻"！可是遇上感人肺腑的故事时，我既想和朋友分享，又不想＂殃及池鱼＂，如何是好？
备受这种邮件缠绕多时的我，这次灵机一动! 哈哈，把最后一段＂咒语＂给删掉，再转发出去不就可以了吗？天啊！这么简单的方法，亏我迟至今日才想到！
咦？不对！既然是再简单不过的方法，想必许多人也可以想到吧！但为何大家还要继续转发呢？
是因为渴望爱情的人太多？还是害怕厄运的人更多？我想: 是喜欢恶作剧的人最多！
20 条评论:
很多人对各种事物的发生缺乏理智的分析和正确的认识，对道听途说、绘声绘影的资讯抱持宁可信其有，不可信其无的态度，而且类似资讯或多或少成为都市一成不变生活的调剂品。章末三个可能性都存在。其实这和人们相信风水、期望通过各种捷径获取利益的心态相同。
I am a bit skeptical and I bit kiasi, but I dun wan my fren to have the same uncomfortable feeling. So wat I do, everytime I read until the end, I skip the paragraph and assume I never read that, haha .. but I never really forward mail, unless they are really meaningfull .. haha ...
哇！你的部落格“复生”啦？
可喜可贺。。。:P
哇，你这种就是真正的朋友叻！我到今天不小心搜索google时，才发现原来你有另外一个部落格了。
但只维持了一个月 ;p 要加油哦！
怎么故事经历有几分相似。
这么说，你应该知晓我是谁了吧 :)
不可思议。有人竟然重拾部落格了。不过看死你。。。。哈哈哈～
If you turn on BBC, there are fair and equal coverage on the UK opposition parties.
So is NHK (Japan), so is KBS (Korea), so is CNN (America), so is CBC (Canada), so is ABC (Australia).
Even in our neighboring Thailand, their TV coverage is fair for both ruling and opposition parties!
Only in this Umno hijacked country that you find most lop-sided idiotic coverage on Umno and its running dog partners!
Let me be the first to tell you that Singapore is not a perfect society. But in Malaysia, we are citizens but still treated like second class citizens, right!
Let me be honest with you. I am better off in Singapore as a PR than as a Malaysian. In the 10 years I am in Singapore, nobody has told me to get lost and I have never felt like a second class citizen despite being a PR. In Malaysia, you know the story.
I feel so let down to know that Singapore treats us better than our own country. What a shame! Ask any other Malaysians living in Singapore and they will tell you the same.
If I am given a choice to serve in the army of Singapore or my own country Malaysia, I would have no problem choosing Singapore despite you claming it is unfair (and you maybe right too).
Why? Do you think the Malaysia government cares for me to putting my life on the line for the country? Let us be honest.
Like I said, Singapore is not perfect, but it is anytime better than living in Malaysia.
While Singapore government is sincere and doing all the right things, saying all the right things, in contrast, we can't say the same about Malaysia government, filled with hypocrites who only sing song, nice racial harmony song on certain occasions, the once in a year Merdeka speech, in general elections vote-fishing speeches, that is all.
And talks are cheaper than bull shit, or dinosaur shit for sure. Cause on many other occasions, during Umno assembly, meetings in kampung etc, we see the apes come out of their cages, instigating hatred, this is our land, waving keris, we are the tuan, we deserve this and that, we need to be strong so that other races won't get to take advantage of our weaknesses, blah blah blah……….no more Chinese schools, no more funding, blah blah blah. Same old shit from the same old clan of monkeys.
Open your eyes, go and live in Singapore for a few years, then you will feel differently perhaps.
On the surface, Singapore government is doing everything right to forge racial harmony, that is important, because perception is everything.
In Malaysia, we have all the opposite. That is the difference. Big difference. Big mama difference. Huge difference.
When I first lived in Singapore, I had the mentality of a "Malaysian".
Guess what? I now don't think like that. Every time, you hear a speech given by the Singapore prime minister, you know he is speaking from his heart and that matters.
I am a very skeptical person and it is very hard to buy me over unless you are speaking the truth. Do you know the government tells all their citizens in their national day rally speech to welcome us foreigners?
I personally admire the Singapore government, they actually walk the talk, really! I can see this with my own eyes! Nothing is more convincing than this. As for our Malaysia politicians, all they care is their bloody self (MCA, MIC, Umno) and their hoodlums.
The large publics of Chinese, Indians and Malays have to fend for ourselves. Why should I go back to Malaysia if I believe I have a better life in Singapore! I don't want my kids to grow up in an environment where they are told there is a distinction between malays and non-malays. Think about this!
This is my personal answer. The 10 years of being happy in Singapore is nowhere compared to the 30 years of rubbish I have got from Malaysia as a non-malay.
I will pass you my Malaysian passport next year (hope you are happy now).
Yup right, what an irony, I am willing to die for Singapore being a PR and not for Malaysia being a citizen. That shows much we feel we belonged in Malaysia.
In 1994, I tried to apply a scholarship in Malaysia but I couldn't get it due to the impartial system albeit I desperate for a scholarship as I was very poor. I tried to re-appeal but to no avail.
Fortunately, Singapore had offered me a scholarship and I was in fact forced to leave Malaysia no matter how reluctant I was.
Having stayed in Singapore for 10 years now. I salute the Singapore government for its efficiency. Whatever promises they make to the citizens, all will be materialised. This country practises meritocracy and if you capable and work hard, you will definitely be able to hold high post regardless of race.
I agree that Singapore is not a perfect country but it treats everyone in Singapore fairly whereby there is no discrimination at all.
On the contrary, Malaysia marginalises the non-malays which ultimately will have great impact on itself. I believe eventually Malaysia will lose (already lost) the competitive edge in which all the capable and smart non-malays will leave to other countries.
It is no doubt our Malaysia education system is getting down the drain as almost all the key posts are filled with all the cronies who are incapable and apple polisher. Besides, lots of our ministers act like an uncivilised person and speak with no substance.
We have already suffered a high level of brain drain - a lot of Malaysians have left for greener pastures in Australia, Singapore etc. Some of these are my friends and they are very happy where they are.
These are people whom others recognized as huge contributors not only to the company they are working with, but the country as well.
Imagine how great Malaysia would have been, if these people are working in Malaysia, and contributing to the growth here.
A lot of non-malays are feeling the pinch of staying in this Malaysia country, especially when our politicians are becoming more confident about being louder and vocal at being racist to win more votes.
But I have heard very few Singaporeans saying they would prefer Malaysia. I know - I was there for about 13 years.
The education minister post is not jinxed. The fact is that whoever is put in that post will not be able to function at all from day one due to two conflicting agendas:
(1) Umno agenda - party first, malays second, churning out graduates (regardless of quality) third, and non-malays last.
(2) University agenda - enrolment via meritocracy, independent courses and thoughts, knowledge and learning, useful to society - in all equally important or whatever order of priority.
Sadly, we all know that (1) and (2) cannot co-exist. So, whoever is put in charge is bound to fail. The system is designed to ensure failure. Period.
I refer to the topic - The Chinese are the biggest taxpayers.
Mahathir disclosure about the Chinese being the biggest taxpayers did console me to some extent. He has spoken what the Chinese dare not speak in public even though we knew all along the fact that the Chinese are a major contributing force to the building of our Malaysia nation.
Be it in the nation's commerce, economy, education, industry, achievements and well-beings and all other aspects, the Chinese have always been a driving force and a strong supporter of the government of the day.
This announcement is of great significance. It makes you wonder about how much money the rich natives of the soil actually contribute to the nation which they call their own.
A minister was robbed of RM350000, an ex-minister was caught with lots of loose change many years back. A captain of the industry got lots of money from the sale of his shares to the government.
Do all these rich people pay enough tax? Many beneficiaries of Mara scholarships don't pay back the loans. Do they pay taxes? They are the middle-class backbone of the sons of the soil. They consist 60 percent of the population. They form 90 percent of the civil service drawing quite good pay. Do they pay enough taxes?
The Chinese work their backs off to support the nation that they love so that the government can implement projects that benefit the nation. The Chinese do enough to support the nation and the government. They walk the talk. Some others only talk.
But who cares? If 'Chinese are the biggest taxpayers' comment was uttered by someone from the Chinese community, such a person will surely be condemned as being insensitive, racist and unpatriotic by certain malay politicians. He might be asked to go back to his country of origin (even though he was born in Malaysia).
Now, Mahathir has taken the words out of the Chinese mouth and confirmed the contribution made by them all these years. The malay politicians who have always accused the Chinese of being greedy, selfish and unpatriotic should shut up from now on.
Sometimes, majority does not mean right. Majority may not lead better. Majority may not bring good. Hence, if Umno strongmen can humbly admit the facts and remove the stumbling blocks, believe me, Malaysia can do much, much better than what we are today.
"The Malay Dilemma" revealing the weaknesses of malays. But did they do something to amend their weaknesses using the correct way, like work harder, compete equally, etc?
They did with the fastest way, implementing unfair policies. How many of you all will agree that the policies are not benefiting the malays?
From the society to the education and to the economy, all policies were meant to "close" their mind and body.
Is Pak Lah announce that NEP will stay, as long as the gap between the rich and the poor exists. In a free economy, this will always be the case. How can the gap be narrowed if they do not work hard? Just ask any economists how an economy works.
Let us assume that they are trying to perform "transferring wealth" to the poor in this way, it would be better to practice socialism or communism, where everything belongs to the country and no personal assets are allowed.
After 38 years of NEP, how has it benefited the country as a whole? No one benefited in the end except those in power.
The most important thing is that the malay goes back and tell his children and grandchildren that in Malaysia, all you need to do to survive is stretch out your hand and ask for handouts. If you malays don't get it, then use force.
Many non-malays in this country share the same view; Give in to them. Why bother to fight? Can you win possibly? Give in, and eventually it is not the non-malays who will get hurt. It is hurt the malays themselves.
A friend of mine used to say that if you want to kill off someone, spoil him.
The non-malays are not afraid of the malays asking for handouts. They are worried that they don't and start to become hardworking like non-malays.
This plot begins to sound more like the X Files - the only way to fight the future is to collaborate with the alien invaders!
My family and I left Malaysia more than a year ago. Seem was right - we left Malaysia reluctantly, especially me.
My wife and I had well-paid jobs, were debt-free and had only one child. We had wonderful relatives and great friends, a strong network of social circles to make life a thoroughly enjoyable journey.
We could see however, that it was a fast eroding paradise.
Our employers were successful only because of political patronage. Our child remained a second-class citizen as far as education was concerned, and this was going to be only the first of many more discriminations to come.
The public institutions could not be relied upon to do the right things. In fact, few bothered with doing the right thing. Malaysian society was disintegrating because the leadership was distracted in all sorts of ways.
We have been here in Melbourne, Australia for more than a year now. We had to start all over again. Start new relationships. Re-build our careers. Find and build our home. We bump into Malaysians all the time.
They are all here for the same reason - to give their future generations a fairer go. They are here to give and take in a fair exchange. They are here to raise their children in a place where work ethics, industry and intelligence count for more than skin color and political patronage. They are here where wrongdoings are highlighted and challenged, and their perpetrators are put under the spotlight.
Do we miss anything in Malaysia? Absolutely. We miss our family and friends. We miss the familiarity our previous home gave us. We miss, just as wrote, the wonderful food. We were reluctant leavers.
Yet we were a lot more fortunate than many.
Our lives have simply continued without us pausing to think and plan ahead, and if necessary, make major changes. If we do, I cannot imagine anyone seriously believing that Malaysia offers a better chance of a better future for our children than many other countries.
The one thing which would swing my assessment is the total abolishment of the current pro-bumi policies, in total. I don't see this happening, no matter what I do. Was it I who tucked tail and left or have those who, recognising such a change would not come about, be the ones who tucked tail in remaining?
Do I miss Malaysia? Only the people there. My family, friends and relatives. I remain a reluctant leaver. There are many things we do in life not because we want to, but because we need to. Leaving Malaysia was one of them.
The damage has been done. As long as the culprit still has the power to rule the Malaysia country, there are no second thoughts of returning back here. For vacations maybe, but even that will be full with hesitations.
To be honest, if dissatisfied people in this country have sufficient financial terms and non heavy commitments, I can bet every single one of them would have left this cursed land long time ago.
I just wonder if all the non-malays are financially independent and just stayed at home enjoying life. The country under the 'supreme' ruling of the malays and the outdated worthless NEP system, will crush itself like a 500 pound bitch humping on a dying 100 years old guy.
Soon, the globe will be spread with Chinese!
They will be the ones who contribute to the progress of the host country.
They will be accepted,
rewarded
and
thanked
by their host country.
WHILE
the malay politicians will still be using:
Race
Religion
Special rights
to tie their own countrymen down just to continue voting for them.
Some malay intellectuals will probably follow the footsteps of the Chinese.
The recalcitrants will be left behind to continue being (had) by the malay politicians.
The truth hurts.
The Chinese or the yellow race is what brings progress. Just look at Asia……….is enough.
Whether they do it internationally or locally they will survive.
We can distinctly see the lowering of Malaysia standards of living as the percentage of Chinese in this country goes down.
In the 70s we were tops with 40 over percent of Chinese and today with only 25 percent we are far behind Singapore, Hong Kong and Korea.
Main reason is the number of such Chinese migrating to these countries - the best ones and rich ones.
Next ten years as the percentage goes even lower, we would be nearing Indonesia or Philippines.
Meanwhile enjoy your stay and the good time.
On the whole as the Chinese spreads out throughout the world, the average standards of these will have much higher standards of living over others.
Malaysia is already under economic siege. From one end, it is being squeezed out by low-cost mainland Chinese manufacturing that is getting better everyday. From the other hand - countries that used to be peers like South Korea and Taiwan are climbing so far up the value-added ladder in electronics that we now have little hope of catching up.
The picture for Malaysia slow decline in manufacturing is Penang. This is why I blame the NEP. Some economists have called university education a 'signaling' tool to employers.
In other words, an employer doesn't give a hoot about what a graduate has really learnt at university. The degree is seen as a 'signal' that the graduate is a person of higher quality than a person without a degree.
When the government, in its aspiration to make the malays more competitive in the job market, forces universities to 'manufacture' a targeted number of graduates from a certain race, the whole 'signaling' mechanism breaks down.
Employers now cannot tell if a malay university graduate is really of quality or if they were just the lucky by product of a quota system.
So, no wonder there are accusations that certain employers are 'racist' - they hire non-malay grads more than malay grads. But of course - those non-malay grads are the only high-quality people that an employer can be sure of.
In the end, the education quota policy hurts the malays more than the non-malays. Malays who would have gone on to university even if there were no quota system are now 'tainted' with the impression that they never deserved it in the first place.
Malays who would not have gone had there not been the quota system still can't find a job after they graduate. In the meantime, these people have spent so much time and money only to be told they should work as overpaid maids or construction workers.
If we really want to let market forces run, then let meritocracy decide who should get places in our local universities. Everyone and his grandmother has an opinion for or against meritocracy, but here is an example of how non-meritocracy has actually hurt the people it was supposed to help.
The biggest economic threat to Malaysia in the next 10 years is not the rise of China and India. It is the NEP.
Let us see how Badawi positions himself in this case - that is if he is going to take a stand at all. Otherwise he will go down as the prime minister who started with the most popular vote and ended up as the most unpopular prime minister.
Each time I read such comments, it always makes me feel how lucky I am to out of Malaysia.
Emigration is not for everybody but those who have done so, ultimately feel highly rewarded in terms of the future for themselves and their kids.
Imagine them growing in an environment devoid of racial, ethnic and religious discrimination.
More importantly, they are now exposed to a wider community that embraces multiculturism, meritocracy, fair go and personal freedom.
Guess which group will be better equipped to face the future challenges in this world?
i still remember when i was little...
my teacher told me that
"how lucky we are in a country full of different races and live in harmony...even the foreigners are envy with us..."
....
我也是这样做。。哈哈。。。
好的文章要分享。。
我也很常收到类似的电子邮件。故事的确很感人。唯一没中不足的就是最后一段，总是要我们在限定的时间内转发给多少人。对我而言，那和垃圾邮件没两样。我和你一样，"睬它(咒语) 都傻"。
绝对赞成！！！
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